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Morning Glories

Inexhaustibly cheerful and intensely, infinitely blue, Mom’s morning glories grew in the small strip of lawn that wasn’t devoted entirely to us.

Twined around their triangular trellis leaning against the back wall of the house, her morning glories greeted each sunrise with unabashed if non-optional joy. I loved to stare into their open faces brilliant against the white brick wall. Gazing into their depths, I felt as if I were being initiated—no, almost initiated—into a secret. They were beautiful and calm, chipper yet composed. I felt I could never be a morning glory. Their simple optimism both comforted and eluded me.


The morning glory’s tendrils clung to the trellis, unable or unwilling to release their grip. Everything depended on them. And the trellis was her home, her place, her world. All she had ever known or hoped to know. She was fiercely content.

I don’t know if Mom had planted the morning glories or if they had always been there. But in my mind, they were forever Mom’s morning glories and they became her.

I wasn’t necessarily aware of this connection until many years later when I once again found myself staring into a tangle of morning glories against a white wall.  They were painted on a heavy slate welcome sign at a small antique shop I frequented, and they carried a hefty price tag compared to my meager Mother’s Day budget. I felt a visceral need to buy for her this sign that I couldn’t really afford. After I purchased it, I wavered. Did she even like morning glories? I gave it to her anyway because of course she liked morning glories, right?

The slate morning glories hang to the left of the front door, welcoming all. So I believe it’s safe to assume she likes morning glories. At the same time, my adorably hideous paper plate and Elmer’s glue angel made in Sunday school in first grade was dutifully hung on our Christmas tree each year until my older sister finally put her foot down not too long ago.

Maybe she doesn’t like morning glories, but maybe she likes me.

I have never been a morning person, but that summer I was.

It was all because my husband had generously, lavishly, sacrificially parted with his beloved teal Camaro the year before to fund our honeymoon trip to New England. I had protested at the time that I couldn’t bear the thought of costing him his baby, but he insisted, and I am forever grateful that he did.

If he still had the Camaro, we wouldn’t have had to drive to work together every morning that summer. A summer of mornings with my husband.

He worked the counter at a small auto parts shop in a town forty-five minutes away, and I tutored at a community college about halfway between there and home. But his shift started at 7:00am while mine started at 9:00. So, we needed to leave together—early. I would drop him off, kill a little time, then head back north to the college in time for my first appointment of the day. It may sound mundane, but it was glorious.

The car doors slammed in unison each morning at 6:15, and off we went—together. Down the mile-long driveway lined by apple trees, morning glories, and freshly-mown grasses and cornflowers. That undulating driveway I’d run in the evenings, feeling the crisp night air in the dips and the warm humidity wrapping itself around my shoulders as I crested the next height. Then, the morning glories were closed against the night, waiting for the first rays of morning light, whispering learn of me.

I learned. I leaned into the mornings, eager and fresh as the morning glories themselves. I loved our early drives together, sipping coffee and listening to U2 and David Gray, Carbonleaf and Dave Matthews, and maybe a little too much “Piano Man.” Discussing the challenges and goals ahead of us. Planning for our daughter, due at the end of that summer.  

We were always the first to arrive at the shop because Josh opened. No one else usually showed up until 7:45 or 8:00, so we had the place to ourselves for nearly an hour. Carts in the back were piled high with miscellaneous items to stock, and my first appointment didn’t begin until 9:00, so I’d stay and help him put up stock. My favorites were the oil filters. The surprisingly small boxes fit my hands perfectly and stacked so neatly. I found such satisfaction in putting the shelves of jumbled filters to rights.

As we raced each morning to have all the stock up before the manager arrived—working in pleasurable silence, gnawing on a problem together, or reveling in terrible puns with abandon—we were stockpiling camaraderie and friendship against the years to come.

Eventually, the manager realized that allowing an employee’s pregnant wife to put up stock, especially when doing so often involved a ladder or a hook, was probably a liability issue. After that I stuck to my guns about those oil filters but let Josh do the rest.

On mornings when the manager arrived early, I’d head out for the college a little sooner than usual. With plenty of time before my first appointment, I’d walk from the college on the north end of town until I reached the beginning of the rolling fields south of town. If I had time to go over just one more hill, I would be able to see the four substantial stone chimneys of the beautiful historic home where we had been married the previous summer, and behind it, the Blue Ridge mountains. In the foreground, morning glories, still open, but flagging.


I was too, now, as I lugged my pregnant belly back to the school. The belly that felt enormous to me and my constricted lungs, yet others continued to insist was so tiny.


Then followed hours of tutoring. I loved each of my students, but especially my regulars: the young woman from Taiwan, sent by her father to the US to study business, who loved my blonde hair so much that she tried to bleach hers and spent the summer mourning her streaky, orange-pink hair. The kind, slight, determined woman from Ecuador whose children had completed school and now she had time to learn as well. The woman who received a cochlear implant at forty and, finally able to hear, decided to go back to school.  


In the evening, I’d head south to pick up Josh, my dear Irish boy with curling black hair, grease under his fingernails, and eyes as blue as the morning glories that taught me to greet with delight every morning spent with him.

Thirteen years later, freshly transplanted from Virginia to Colorado, we were experiencing our first summer of Colorado green (spoiler alert: brown).

The view from our back porch was lovely in its own right—the Rockies against sparkling blue skies and spectacular sunsets, a small town and a few flat-topped hills in the midground, an open field just beyond our back gate. But in June the field already consisted of crackling, rasping grasses in shades of beige and tan and it was likely to stay that way.


Starving for green and wanting my little guy to experience the pleasure of growing something, I came home one morning with a seed packet of morning glories. Giddy with excitement, Finnegan joined on me the back porch to plant and water the seeds. His dimpled hands dispatched these unfamiliar tasks with more enthusiasm than grace, but he was so careful to follow my directions as exactly as he could. It was a pleasure to heap on the praise and watch his blue eyes kindle with joy.


Too young to remember this process from our fabulous garden the year before, he expected the seeds would spring to life instantly he completed his ministrations. I had suspected as much.


To temper the blow, I had also brought him a potted marigold with plenty of blooms to keep him busy in the meantime. These he instantly dubbed Foopy’s flowers, and they stood up marvelously to his affectionate caresses and routine overwatering.

At breakfast the following day he asked if we could check on our marnin’ goalies. He had remembered! And had retained or even expanded his enthusiasm for them. Yes, we could definitely check on the marnin’ goalies.

Each day that summer we would check for blossoms and celebrate each new bud. There were blue, pink, and white. Mostly brilliant pink. We stroked the delicate petals, peered down their narrow throats, traced the veins of their almost heart-shaped leaves, and delighted in the tightly curled tendrils of new trailers.  

Whenever we had visitors, he would usher them to the porch to admire and exclaim over his marnin’ goalies and chuckle gleefully over Foopy’s flowers.

Every hour spent on the back porch was ringed by green—my potted herbs, my daughter’s snapdragons, the morning glories, and Foopy’s flowers. They felt like a work of enchantment against a dry and weary land. In our oasis, we blew bubbles and told stories, we nursed and napped. We played with construction vehicles in a tub of the leftover potting soil, we read copious library books in our new lime green Adirondack chairs, we savored sunsets during the cool of the day.


The morning glories didn’t grow as tall as I expected. No trellis was needed; they stayed well within the confines of their little pot. But I was content. They—like we—were putting down roots in a new land.

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Rachel Brown

enjoys sipping tea, savoring good books, and spending time outside.
She is daily inspired to live more deeply and love more fully by her husband and two children.

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2 Responses

  1. Thank you for writing such precious thoughts and memories. Your writing paints pictures and scenes from past times and times I wasn’t there to witness with you, but now can “see”. What a gift you have to share and bless others with! You always will be my Joy!

  2. I love this story. Thank you so much for sharing it. It is very evocative and well written reminding me of days in the Adirondacks and life in my own garden growing morning glories

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